Re: Gender Issue Lives On as Clinton Hopes Dim
by
LaurieAnnM
05/23/2008, 1:45 PM #
IAfromPA..wow you bring up such a good point because this seems to be the main running theme of women who are against Hillary Clinton. So, it must have some genuine resonance right or worng in how many women view her.
I read and hear this more than any other criticism that some women just have a very very hard time feeling good about her because she stood by her cheating huisband.
It's almost as if those who feel this way about her feel affronted in a personal way as if had she really 'shown him the door' this somehow would have empowered all of the women in the world to then stand up against any man who cheats ever again.
I understand this feeling.
My own husband now of 21 odd years was a rake and rogue,too.. it was terrible, terrible for me for years, years ago.
I thought it would it kill me, emotionally. But, I knew deep inside him he was avery good good man.
The sexual escapades were a manifestation of his childhood issues and I struggled very very hard with it for years..alternately, at times laying down the law and others outright leaving him.
But in the end, I knew he was worth more than his weaknesses, by far.
And I knew his escapades would diminish in time as life moves along If they did not, I would have left for good.
When I eventually did leave him for awhile, he eventually matured and grew past this problem that he had with cheating etc.
So, for me, I know that it's really a personal choice on an individual basis for a woman to decide whether to kick out a cheating husband or just take him to counseling and lay down some boundaries.
I don't really concern myself all that much with her personal choice of why she stayed with her husband. But my gut suspects it is out of love as well as understanding of his own childhood issues,lack of father figure etc..and as well, the powerful co career goals they share together as well.
I don't know if this helps you at all see how I look at it..but thought it wouldn't hurt to share it.
You absolutely not alone in your feelings about it.