.. once again, Prud[i]e proves she either hates men or sex.. or both? Anyway, her advice in this department is, as usual, fucked. If more jacking off were the answer, Eliot Spitzer would still be Governor of New York and nobody would have any idea who Rielle Hunter is.

People with wildly divergent sex drives do not belong in LTR's. Period. The horndog WILL cheat eventually, and both parties WILL be at least partly miserable in the meantime. If you are not on or close to the same page in this department, no matter how much you dig the other person, it WILL NOT LAST. Do yourselves a favor and end it before you have kids or you become some other kind of disaster waiting to happen. Find someone who you match up with.

Prudie's advice says little more than, "Well, get over it," which is usually the advice offered by a society that a) treats a natural sex drive either as a sin or a nuisance (and yes, although it was probably an exaggeration, three times a day, while high, is still natural); and b) treats the male sex drive as particularly base and insidious.

As a polite "advice columnist," Prudie advances society's norms, and does so mindlessly. He's too horny; she's too busy. The only good advice is to tell the man to dump his girlfriend and find a better arrangement. Rubbing one out before she gets home is amazingly stupid advice. It's not about the ejaculation Prudie; it's about the sex...with a woman.

He'll cheat on her soon. No doubt. Great advice Prudie.

I'm really curious because I have seen this question of mis-matched sex drives from both men and women, and there simply does not seem to be a answer that works for both parties aside from "break up/divorce and find someone else."

Should the one who "only" wants sex 3 times a week just shut up and put out 3 times a day even though they hate it? I see this ending with anger, resentment, and a breakup just as quickly as it would if the party with the higher drive can't accept less frequent sex. Also, really good sex takes time. I mean, 5-10 minute sex has it's place (like when you are afraid the baby will wake back up any second or your lunch break is almost over), but foreplay and consummation that engages both mind and body is not achieved that quickly, at least for women. Who has time for that 3 times a day? Does it simply come down to what one values in a sexual relationship, and if it's not present you must break up or divorce? But what if you truly, deeply love your partner? Can that ever overcome the difference in sex drive?

And why doesn't Prudie ever suggest that these people see a sex therapist? There may be underlying physical or psychological issues that need to be dealt with.

So what advice do you suggest be given? Give him permission to cheat? Tell him to press his wife and demand sex? Short of rape, there is not much anyone can do to encourage their partner to have more interest in sex. This isn't rocket science.