I feel sorry for people with these huge (3 times a day!) sex drives because it seems they are unlikely to find a compatible partner. But at some point, shouldn't they recognize that this is not the norm and they are unlikely to find partners that "match"? There's nothing wrong with wanting sex that much, but most people (that I know, anyway), simply do not want it that much. Does anyone really want to have sex with an unwilling and resentful partner? Compromise is in order, as in any aspect of a relationship and a frank discussion possibly with a sex therapist, but I really wonder at what point one should just recognize that one's sex expectations are unrealistic and figure out a way to deal with it oneself? (Also, I would say the same would apply in the opposite situation to someone who wants sex very rarely.)

I agree. My best guess is that the LW is young so it will be hard for him to comprehend what I'm about to say: Dude, sex is not what it's all about. Get a hobby and give your girlfriend some peace. A woman who is pestered all the time about giving it up is going to end up a resentful woman.

I can't imagine how distracting it must be for your body to be pestering you all the time for something like this so I do sympathize with him. However, like any other obsession, there are healthy ways to deal with it.

His girlfriend does need to meet him half way though, and hopefully adjusting her medications will enable her to be willing to make love more than once a week.

Three times a day isn't THAT huge of a sex drive.

He wakes up in the morning and wants a little morning sex. He doesn't have to 'finish' and I never finish in the morning because I have to pee and my breath stinks and I'm not that into it in the morning but we start it anyway.

And then we meet at home for lunch and watch a little porn and he gets his. Then that night after the kids are in bed and everything is taken care of in the house I get mine. I LOVE it that way because when I'm tired at the end of the day I don't have the energy to get him his and I want to just go to sleep afterwards. But that means he wakes up horny the next day and we have morning sex again.

Of course there's a certain week that we cut way back or do other things. And in the summer time we have less sex cuz the kids are home at lunch time and they never seem to want to go to bed either plus theirs illnesses and extra work loads sometimes that cut in to the sexing time but it really isn't that hard to have sex 3 times a day. We've been married for 20 yrs and the only time 3x's a day is exessive to me is when he wants us both to 'finish' each time. When he gets in one of those moods I run. But he always seems to catch me :~P

Way, way, TMI. Keep it in the bedroom, Bracip. Ugggghhhh.

We're British, so we one-up you Yanks. Yes, there's breakfast, lunch and dinner, but there's also teatime. Teatime is the best. We "finish each other off" and then indulge in the cuke (tee hee) sandwiches and a bit of sherry (no, not Sherry the upstairs maid). Blah, blah, blah. Why do people like Bracip feel they have to share the details of their lives? It's so "unnecessary."