Geez, all those years of Sex and the City and no one still seems to get the concept of a "Girl's night?" I have them several times a month with different groups of friends. And we have plent of room for the guys, we just choose to party without them.

So throw the party. Have fun with the girls, see if someone else will host next time--and if she wants to include the guys, let her (my bet is she won't)

Why do you assume this is about 'girls night'. Here is what the LW says related to the invites; "Your boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse is not invited?"

This implies her grad friends are from BOTH genders. In fact someone here posted that the LW might have the hot for one of her male grad friends and this is why she doesn't with to have partners there.

So while you idea of a girls night is fine it doesn't apply here. Like me you assume this gal doesn't want to get to know her friends partners. THAT is what is telling in this letter. We don't know why but part of growing up is accepting that people's life change. The LW appears to want to live in the past. She should just invite 4 friends and each time or see if she can help a friend that has a bigger place host a party.

Missed that one.

thanks for pointing it out

I got the impression that the LW was a man.