I have noticed thast the contemporary ideal is to whisper at all times. Normal speaking voices for our public speakers are not only unwanted but apparently considered to be offensive. So, loudness is a relative construct, and the concept of 'yelling' is equivalent to 'chiding' in contemporary vernacular. The pure subjective nature of this 'contemporary offensive' is in itself offensive. Some peiople have speaking voices that can be heard long distances, others have speaking voices that cannot be heard at arms length, To penalize people for the normal quality of a voice is to to penalize people for natural characteristics, e.g., curly hair, blonde hair, et cetera, and should not be tolerated much less embraced by a society that pretends to be inclusive.

This society has idealized polished sub images that require conformity, not inclusiveness.

I get told to stop yelling all the time. They have no idea what I would sound like if I actually raised my voice.

Just yesterday I asked my boss if I could borrow his car to run to a meeting across town and he said: "Sure, as long as you stop yelling at me".

I've just started saying: "I'm not yelling. I'm simply speaking in a voice loud enough so you can understand me clearly."

Something to consider in the interest of constructive criticism: overly loud voices hurt my ears. When people talk loudly, it does not help me to understand them clearly; in fact it makes it more difficult to listen to them. If people are constantly asking you to stop yelling, then perhaps they are having this same problem. If your goal is to be clearly understood, taking the volume down a notch might help more than you know.

TheKitty:

Something to consider in the interest of constructive criticism: overly loud voices hurt my ears. When people talk loudly, it does not help me to understand them clearly; in fact it makes it more difficult to listen to them. If people are constantly asking you to stop yelling, then perhaps they are having this same problem. If your goal is to be clearly understood, taking the volume down a notch might help more than you know.

Perhaps.

I work with a lot of women who seem hellbent on mumbling or whispering their conversations to everyone. In an effort not to ever be one of those people I might have overcompensated.