Despite the brilliant insight and top-notch advice you have enjoyed in my posts, the truth is that i am a petty man in real life. A petty, petty man. 

Someone by the name of Kit-Kat gave me a negative rating earlier today - yes, it's true, i wouldn't lie to you - and already my mind is consumed with hatred and revenge fantasies, mostly involving sharks, all of which has totally ruined my Fray experience.

So, my question is this : if you were in a relationship and the time spent with that person was 80 or 90 % wonderful and filled with happy memories, but they betrayed you or upset you greatly at the end of the relationship, would that disappointment cast a pall over all your memories of that person or could you still remember the happy times fondly and blot out the painful bits ? 

(I'm going to bed now btw. The ladies may be interested to know that it's too hot for me to wear my Go, Diego, Go jammies and that i'm stripped down to my boxers). I find these little personal details add an extra dimension to the whole Fray experience.

Tarquin Machismo:

So, my question is this : if you were in a relationship and the time spent with that person was 80 or 90 % wonderful and filled with happy memories, but they betrayed you or upset you greatly at the end of the relationship, would that disappointment cast a pall over all your memories of that person or could you still remember the happy times fondly and blot out the painful bits ?

I think initially I'd only remember the cruddy thing. But, then as I moved on and it became less of issue, I'd mostly remember all the good times. When you're happy with where you are, it's hard to get upset over how someone else had done you wrong in the past....

If someone has done something so bad to me that I don't want to be in a relationship with them, why would I sit around and think of the happy times we shared? I'm too busy either enjoying the happy time I'm in right this moment or being ready for the next happy time than to wax nostalgic over some random vacation where the ex and I didn't kill each other.

If you are asking if someone can do something so heinous to you that it makes you question each and every aspect of your past, I would have to say yes. And it would depend on the type of betrayal. Messing around with another woman isn't going to get the same filter on the past from me that stealing my money or molesting my kids would get. The first one, I don't really care how long he's been doing it or to what extent. The second two, oh hell yeah.

Fun Times, Until He Turned Into An Assclown relationships leave me feeling rueful afterward. I remember the good times, and I'm glad to have had them, but the innocence of the good times is kind of embarassing in hindsight later.

Like the summer I was 17 and having a great time slutting out with a 27 year old naval officer....did I really think THAT was going to end well?

LOL, what a cry baby. I got 6 or 7 minus ratings on my very first post. So what? Rating option is for everyone visiting the board. The brainless or the brainiest. But it doesnt authenticate the one giving out negative ratings are the smartest ones around so stop crying, awright? LOL.

I have never given out any negative ratings to any poster. Not even Moohammed. LOL.

And I do not have this habit of using a different, not-so-known nick for that pupose either as some of the posters do cz they too timid to express using their real nick. Though, I have no idea which post of your met that fate of negative rating as havent been on DP for a while to read any postings. But you cant make everyone happy so chill out.

Re: your quetion. It depends on the person & the good times, like, how much special he/she is and whether the good times were too special to weigh out the negativity.

Tarquin Machismo:

Despite the brilliant insight and top-notch advice you have enjoyed in my posts, the truth is that i am a petty man in real life. A petty, petty man.

Someone by the name of Kit-Kat gave me a negative rating earlier today - yes, it's true, i wouldn't lie to you - and already my mind is consumed with hatred and revenge fantasies, mostly involving sharks, all of which has totally ruined my Fray experience.

So, my question is this : if you were in a relationship and the time spent with that person was 80 or 90 % wonderful and filled with happy memories, but they betrayed you or upset you greatly at the end of the relationship, would that disappointment cast a pall over all your memories of that person or could you still remember the happy times fondly and blot out the painful bits ?

(I'm going to bed now btw. The ladies may be interested to know that it's too hot for me to wear my Go, Diego, Go jammies and that i'm stripped down to my boxers). I find these little personal details add an extra dimension to the whole Fray experience.

LOL, what a cry baby. I got 6 or 7 minus ratings on my very first post. So what? Rating option is for everyone visiting the board. The brainless or the brainiest. But it doesnt authenticate the one giving out negative ratings are the smartest ones around so stop crying, awright? LOL.

I have never given out any negative ratings to any poster. Not even Moohammed. LOL.

And I do not have this habit of using a different, not-so-known nick for that pupose either as some of the posters do cz they too timid to express using their real nick. Though, I have no idea which post of your met that fate of negative rating as havent been on DP for a while to read any postings. But you cant make everyone happy so chill out.

Re: your quetion. It depends on the person & the good times, like, how much special he/she is and whether the good times were too special to weigh out the negativity.

Tarquin Machismo:

Despite the brilliant insight and top-notch advice you have enjoyed in my posts, the truth is that i am a petty man in real life. A petty, petty man.

Someone by the name of Kit-Kat gave me a negative rating earlier today - yes, it's true, i wouldn't lie to you - and already my mind is consumed with hatred and revenge fantasies, mostly involving sharks, all of which has totally ruined my Fray experience.

So, my question is this : if you were in a relationship and the time spent with that person was 80 or 90 % wonderful and filled with happy memories, but they betrayed you or upset you greatly at the end of the relationship, would that disappointment cast a pall over all your memories of that person or could you still remember the happy times fondly and blot out the painful bits ?

(I'm going to bed now btw. The ladies may be interested to know that it's too hot for me to wear my Go, Diego, Go jammies and that i'm stripped down to my boxers). I find these little personal details add an extra dimension to the whole Fray experience.

for wearing jammies. Real men wear jammies. Although I went to a house party up in Harlem last night and woke up this morning in my underwear, sweating, and upside down in my bed.

To answer your question, I totally forgive and forget. It comes down to how much a dig this girl. If that's affirmative, all cases will be inherently handled. If some cases aren't handled by that, then it's inherently negative.

its yggy:

for wearing jammies. Real men wear jammies.

Really.....? Hmm...... thanks for the info.

its yggy:

Although I went to a house party up in Harlem last night and woke up this morning in my underwear, sweating, and upside down in my bed.

yggz, our inquisitive minds wanna know what kind of party does that.